We Understand. We are Caregivers Just Like You.
My sister and I were just like you -found ourselves unprepared, lost and alone in this role as the Caregiver/Manager for our aging parents. Information is "out there", but we did not have the time to hunt for it, nor did we know what we were looking for.
We believed that it should not have to be this way! Therefore, we took this as an opportunity to create a website for people just like where we could find support, resources, tools, and real solutions all-in-one-place!
Who are we? We are the daughters, sons, nieces/nephews, sons/daughters in-law and grandchildren who are Caregivers or future Caregivers for our loved ones. We seek a better understanding about these responsibilities. We would like to become better prepared for it. We would like to know where to go to find the help we will need to overcome our unique challenges while in this role.
Welcome to Aging Parents MarketPlace.
Everyone's journey will be different. Everyone's situation is different. This role will not come with a job description either. Most of the time, we find ourselves in the Caregiver role very quickly and unexpectedly, but don't worry - we are here to help you right here - right now.
The key to your success in the Caregiver role is knowing where to go for information when you need it and to have the right support resources readily available. My sister and I have created this place for you so you'll have the resources you will need while on your Journey with your Aging Parent or Loved one.
Aging Parents MarketPlace is here to support you
- right here, right now.
My sister and I will never forget that day in March when we rushed Mom to the emergency room. The entire time while we were sitting in the ER, we were thinking "this is just a side effect from her new medication". When the ER doctor returned with her test results, we would not be prepared for the news that changed our world forever. "Your mother has Leukemia."
Until that day, our Mom was an active 76 year old super woman - a grandmother of two, working her home based business as a seamstress, gardening, going on casino trips with Dad and playing a very active role in both mine and my sister's life. We never considered her or our Dad as old or even ever getting old. This is not completely true since we knew eventually they would be, but we were not expecting it all to happen on this very day. On this day, our active parents became aging parents and we were not prepared for the journey on which we were about to embark upon.
On that day, we did not realize that we just became Caregiver of our aging parents. Our lives took a quick turn onto the express way of: doctors visits, chemo treatments, insurance company battles, meal makings, picking up medication, and running out for groceries. Meanwhile at home alone during all of this was our elderly dad, their household responsibilities; in addition, to our own lives - homes, children, husbands, full-time jobs, etc.
The journey with our Mom ended very quickly. Her struggle with her rare form of Leukemia only lasted six months when she passed away in August of 2010. We found ourselves again very unprepared to deal with her death. We never talked about it as a family so when this moment arrived we struggled through the process of finding her a resting place, making her funeral arrangements, tackling their finances in addition to dealing with our grief and an 83 year old Dad now living in their home alone. Although the journey with our Mom eventually came to a close, this was the beginning of the long haul one with our 83 year old Dad.
Dad was invited to live with either one of us, but he was not open to leaving his home of over 45 years. So now what do we do? How do we care for Dad and live our own lives? How can he be left alone there? How are we going to manage all of this? How can we take on more? So instead of planning for this answer, we decided to see where the road would take us.
We received the answer to our question when Dad suffered a stroke about a year after Mom passed away that left him legally blind and unable to return to his home. My sister and I found ourselves even more unprepared for what we were about to face on this part of our journey - making Dad's long-term living and care arrangements, making the decision to renovate or to sell his home, should he live with one of us or move to a care facility; in addition to taking him to doctor's visits, managing his finances, all the while having lives, husbands, children, full-time jobs of our own.
The journey for us lasted nine years. The entire time we kept asking ourselves, why do we feel so lost and alone in all of this. Why were we were so unprepared for all of it? Why did it have to be this way? We believe that it does not and we wanted to do something about it. That's when I had the idea to create a website that would incorporate information to help guide people like us in dealing with issues related to our aging parents. Hello, Aging Parents Management!
When Mom died, I started keeping a journal, at the time I was not sure why. In it I wrote passages about information I discovered that day while dealing with some of the processes. I tore pages from magazines when I found a product that may be helpful for us sometime in the future. Little did I know that I was already in the designing phases for the Aging Parents Management website years before the idea to create it came to us in 2017.
My sister and I strongly believe that our experiences will help others like us - adult children of aging parents which is the inspiration behind this website - AgingParentsManagement.com. We need to talk about it, plan for it with them or for them.
No one should ever have to feel as lost and alone as we did. We need to become better prepared for becoming their Caregivers. We will need information to be easier for us to find even if we don't know what we are looking for. We will need different resources because all of our journeys will be different - culturally, ethnically, financially, age, professionally, medically, etc.
AgingParentsManagement.com was created to incorporate all of this into one spot making it easier for us to have the support we will need when we need it - a network, a community, tools, services and information. We are never ready for this stage in our parents' lives but we can become more aware and better prepared for it.
Everyone's journey is different and ours is too. Our journey with our aging Dad ended when he passed away March 2019. It is ironic that he passed away in the same month that it all started with our Mother in March 2010. For my sister, her journey is different now too. Although we consider ourselves as Dad's Co-Caregivers, she maintained the primary responsibilities for his care. She had sacrificed herself for this role and today she is trying to recapture the life she lost in those nine years - focusing on her own health which was ignored for nine years, reconnecting with her husband, her 18 year old daughter who is going off to college this fall and her 16 year old son.
My sister and I had plans to create Aging Parents Management together. Now she is finally making herself the priority not only as a former Caregiver but as a Cancer survivor. Before finally stepping away from our journey together in August of 2019, she told me that she believes in what we created and she gave me her blessing to keep on going without her.
Our world has changed so much these days with the Coronavirus that our help, my help is needed more than ever before. Everyday someone is waking up as the NEW Caregiver of an aging parent or loved one and I am going to be here to help you get started and become empowered as you make your journey with your Aging Parent or Loved one.