What About Me?

"I was not prepared for how much my life would change when I became my Dad's caregiver."


Caregivers and Care Managers are special people.   We are strong, dedicated and selfless individuals.  We accept this role and the price that comes along with it.   It has a way of changing things from our relationships with our spouse/life partner, our children, siblings and most of all -the one with yourself to our careers and even our own future retirement.


There is very little being said about the side affects of being a Caregiver and the scars it leaves on us.   We are made to feel like there is something wrong with us and its all in our head - the stress, frustrations, the worry, the fear, the challenges and "battles" of just getting through each day when you are caring for someone.   We understand because we felt the same as you.


What you are feeling is real, valid and has a name:   Caregiver Stress Syndrome.    Here is where you can read more about this (Caregiver.com; The Caregiver Syndrome by Ron Ingber.)

"Caregiver stress syndrome is a condition characterized by physical, mental and emotional exhaustion. It typically results from a person neglecting their own physical and emotional health because they are focused on caring for an ill, injured or disabled loved one."

This is not a diagnosis!  Nor are we medical professionals.   Our goal is to share with you information that we have been looking for to define how we were feeling and ways to address many of the issues related with the Caregiver role. 


Yes, your life does matter. 

Defining Moments

"Thanks for the "girls night out" invite - sorry can't make it.  Its just not possible for me to go out unless I can find someone to cover caring for my Dad."

"I'm on the fast path for a promotion, but now Mom is moving in with me.   I'm not sure if I will be able care for her and work full-time."  

"The sister-in-law is setting up a spa day, but you cannot afford to go since you are paying some of Mom's bills out of your own pocket."

But wait, there is more!

Caregiver Syndrome is not the only health condition affecting Caregivers.  Some are experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD).


Even now, Caregivers are living in the shadows.    No one is keeping track of the information about this "unofficial occupation".    The safety and job environment issues which normally would fall under  OSHA regulations or the Labor Department do not apply to us.      

Furthermore, as some of us eventually step out of the Caregiver role when the loved one passes away, the life as the Caregiver is buried with along with them.    Everyone who has ever done this will agree that this job "sucks"; however, the motivation to make any needed changes to make this job better for future Caregivers dies off as well.    

When Caregivers are finally ready to move on,  they will try to pick up the pieces of their life from where it left off before the journey started.    This should sound like a happy ending which in reality for some of us - it is not.    

The concerns, the issues and the impacts of being in the Caregiver role is all very real.   However, since no one is tracking any of the the information about how this role is affecting us, these issues remain unidentified, undocumented and unresolved. 

"Make time for yourself a task item.   It does not make you a bad Caregiver - it makes you a stronger one when you do!"  

"You know, our home helpers are not just to help your Dad - they are there to support you too." Frank Esterlie, owner of Home Helpers Home Care Services. 

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With Validation Comes Peace of Mind

There is an expression, its not you its me.    In this case, it truly is not you!    Everything you are feeling, everything you are and will worry about is real and valid.   
You are not the only Caregiver who is going through this.    Your concerns as your loved one's Caregiver are valid!    
There is a fallacy that once you step into the Caregiver role, you must loose yourself.   No you don't!     
A Caregiver's life is just as important as the one you are caring for.   
Will it be difficult doing both - caring for yourself while caring for another, Yes - but you do not have to do it alone.  
"You can't pour from an empty cup.   Take care of yourself first, and Debra Myers, Professional Stress Management consultant is an amazing resource to help you through these challenges.

" You Can't Pour from an empty cup.   Take Care of yourself first."

Meet Debra Myers, Stress Management Consultant

"You can't pour from an empty cup.  Take care of yourself first." 

Debra Myers, Stress Management Consultant

Why is it necessary "to first give care to the caregiver?"     My sister and I never thought about putting ourselves first while in the role as a Caregiver; but we should have.   It might have changed the course for my sister.

Finding Debra is a gift.   She brings into the focus the importance of sustaining our own energy levels while caring for someone.     

Connect with Debra Myers on the Marketplace.    Debra Myers certifications in Stress Management, ​Integral Yoga,  (as well as transforming personal health challenges attributed to stress) has qualified her to assist successfully, for almost 10 years, clients with stress and anxiety related disorders at the ​Psychological Cooperative of Malec, Herring and Krause. 

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Anastasia, Aging Parents Management

As Caregivers, we believe that unless we completely immerse our life into this role - we are doing a disservice to the person we are caring for.

Now that my sister and I are able to look back at our experience as Dad's Caregivers, we now see where some of our mistakes were made.

We never gave this stage in our lives - as future daughters of aging parents a second thought.    There were things that we should have seen coming which is why it is important to through the different Scenarios in you life!

The other issue is we had unrealistic expectations which only set us up for more challenges which could have been avoided.    Maybe you have these same Unrealistic Expectations?

The biggest mistake we made was feeling that we had to go through this alone.   Make connections that support you the way you need it whether it is through; Professional Support, our Podcast, Webinars, or Group Chats.

Let's Become More Prepared & Aware

  • Family Issues

    The family issues seem to arise when it comes to accepting Caregiving Responsibilities.

  • My Life

    I had my own plans, life goals, and priorities.   I guess  now those plans have changed.

  • My Relationships

    "For better, for worse and for when your parents move in with us.

  • Enlightened

    Sometimes we have to work on overcoming the challenges we create ourselves.

  • Career Caregiver

    How your Employer can better support you as an Employee Caregiver.

  • Resources

    Homecare Management made simpler with these amazing resources!

  • The Dashboard

    What else do I need to know about while on this Journey?

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Tel. 215-997-6580

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